As we grow older and wiser, we realize that taking control over our lives is our super power. There is no one to push you around and you have to decide what you want for yourself.
Part of that journey is choosing the people you want to surround yourself with.
There’s no time to be super accommodating to everyone because these are the people who will influence you to move towards the best or worst version of yourself.
This is your chance to let go of the ‘Mr. Nice guy’ façade and dump these people out of your life.
Users
A user sneaks into your life slowly and before you realize it, you’ve been manipulated into catering to their every need. These might be your family member, a friend or your office bestie, it doesn’t really matter because they know how to play this game well.
If the only time they show interest is when they need a teeny-weeny favor, they’re a classic user. Look for trends on how they have been interacting with you to know the truth.
Complainers
Having a complainer in your life is extremely exhausting. Everything they say is negative and this can actually start to affect you.
Life is honestly hard for everyone and we’re all dealing with so many things that we don’t talk about. With all that going on, the last thing you need is someone who adds the burden of negativity into your spirit.
If you’re not careful, you might even get infected with the habit of seeing the bad in everything.
Gossipers
A gossiper’s mind is always on the latest juicy story. This person is eager to listen to whatever’s being said and they’re very likely to spread what they’ve heard to others including secrets you told them not to share.
Gossip itself is vile because it’s based on a lot of information that’s false. And you never know when a gossiper might make you the topic one day because they usually lack self-control.
Victims
Here, we are not talking about people who have been through a situation. We are talking about people who run away from accountability at any given opportunity.
If you ever disagree on anything, even when it’s obvious they were wrong, they will twist the story and never own up or accept it.
Their motivation is sympathy and manipulation. These psychopaths who can drive you mad should be avoided at all costs for your peace of mind and sanity.
Attention seekers
Being drunk on clout is a real problem these days. Many people live in their own heads and they will always want to be the star of the show at all times.
Some of these people will do anything to get attention whether it’s being too loud, dressing provocatively or even if it means embarrassing you in front of others or behaving in an annoying way in public to get people to look they will gladly do it.
If you choose to keep attention seekers around you, do it at your own risk.
Time wasters
The phase of keeping meaningless friendships should end during college years. As adults, it is more beneficial to have friendships where you actually build each other.
If you know you have people around you who you can never rely on, except when partying is involved, you need to move on to reevaluate.
