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Dear GhanaWeb,
I am 27 years old and a medical laboratory scientist. I work in a major specialist hospital in Accra. I used to live with my parents and siblings, but I have since built my own house and moved in with two of my siblings.
I’m doing quite well for myself as a young man, and I’ve taken very good care of my parents, especially my mother.
Recently, my dad has been unwell, so I took his blood to run some lab tests to determine what might be wrong with him.
After completing the investigations and printing the results, I had a sudden urge to do a DNA test. This is part of my field, and I was curious to see what the outcome would be.
Shockingly, the DNA test revealed that I am not my dad’s biological son. This discovery has been eating me up for months, and I’m unsure how to confront my mum about it.
I once tried to ask my mum indirectly, in a lighthearted manner, if she had a boyfriend before marrying my dad, since I’m their firstborn.
She instantly became defensive and angry, telling me never to ask such a “stupid” question again. The shock in her eyes, however, was evident.
I then decided to secretly conduct DNA tests on my two siblings who live with me. Out of six siblings in total, I discovered that the one after me is also not my dad’s biological child, but the third sibling—the boy after me—is his son.
This revelation has been fueling my growing resentment toward my mum. I’ve stopped visiting my parents as often as I used to, and I feel a constant need for answers. Whenever I try to bring up the topic, my mum gets irritated and dismisses the conversation.
One day, my dad noticed my change in behavior and asked me if something was wrong, as he knows how much I’ve always loved my mum. He also pointed out that I’ve stopped eating her food, which is unlike me.
I tried to keep calm and started having regular conversations with my mum again. During one of these talks, I intentionally asked my dad, in her presence, why he loves me so much. I reminded him how he’s always been there for me as a father. He laughed and said, “Of course, you’re my first son. Why wouldn’t I do anything for you?”
His response left me emotional and speechless.
Now, I’m torn about whether I should continue conducting DNA tests on my other siblings or stop where I am. This whole situation is overwhelming, and I don’t know who to talk to or how to handle it.
What should I do?
FG/MA
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