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Dear GhanaWeb,
It was early Sunday morning and I was busy preparing food in the kitchen. Not any regular food but a special one because my fiancé is returning from a year trip. We were actually preparing for our wedding so he coming back also means our wedding will be on.
I was the happiest girl, I missed my fiancé so much. After serving the food and everything, I heard a knock and it was him. I hugged him so tightly, I was so happy to the extent that I failed to notice he wasn’t smiling or happy.
I took him to the dining hall where his favourite food was served. I thought his facial expression means tiredness and hunger. He told he doesn’t need a spoon so I should bring him water so he would wash his hand. I asked him why he would want to use his hands to eat fried rice or if there’s something wrong with the spoon. He said he’s too hungry to waste his time with spoon.
It soon got to a night time and I couldn’t wait to get intimate with my fiancé. It’s been so long and my body craved for him. He was fast asleep, I started touching him, his weak point but this time he didn’t react. I persisted and he woke up, sat on the bed and asked me to stop. I was surprised but I adjusted my mood and asked him what was wrong. I asked him if he doesn’t miss me and he said he’s tired.
I told him he’s been acting different since he got home, then to my surprise, he asked me go to the hospital with him for HIV test. The shock on my face was so obvious and I couldn’t say a word to him.
My mood was off and I turned to sleep. The next day, I woke up early to prepare breakfast, just to see that my fiancé was all dressed up and he said I shouldn’t bother myself preparing breakfast because he wanted us to go to the hospital early.
I asked him if that was necessary and he said, he wanted to be sure if I stayed faithful to him in his absence. He then told me to pray I don’t test positive, and if it’s comes out positive, I shouldn’t think of following him to the house. I don’t feel guilty because my fiancé had been the only man in my life and I never cheated on him.
When we got to the hospital, he looked confident and for a moment, I thought this was a good thing. It can make us trust each other more. After conducting the test, the results were in and the doctor brought us two envelopes. The doctor opened mine first, told me I’m positive for ulcer and not HIV. I smiled and looked at my fiancé. The doctor then opened his result and said, “you have to take it easy, you are HIV positive”. As if his legs and the chair couldn’t hold him again, he sat on the floor.
I was in daze all this while, I was speechless and started crying. He started confessing to me that, he has been cheating on me when he travelled. He slept with multiple girls, he thought I was doing same and was afraid I would infect him. He continued to beg me not to leave him, if I do, he would kill himself.
I called his parents to inform them and they asked me to be calm. They said they will come over to resolve the issue but I told there’s nothing they could do because HIV is not curable.
My fiancé would have asked me to leave if I was in his position. I’ve decided to leave because I can’t risk my life for a love that do not cherish me and cheated on me right before our wedding.
I hope I made the right decision though, I don’t want to make a decision that would make me regret it one day. What do I do now?
FG/EB
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