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Dear GhanaWeb,
I’ve been married for over five years and have two children with my wife. Despite my marital status, I began a relationship with another woman about a year ago.
From the beginning, I was honest with her about being married, but I also expressed a genuine interest in pursuing something serious with her.
I made it clear that she had every right to say no, I didn’t want her doing anything against her will.
After taking time to consider, she agreed to the relationship. I truly cared for her and did everything I could to make her comfortable. I supported her financially, giving her no less than GH₵4,000 monthly.
I even asked her to quit her job, which wasn’t paying well, and instead paid her a salary of GH₵1,500 in addition to GH₵2,500 for upkeep. I regularly sent her money and gifts because I wanted her to be happy.
Three months ago, she told me she was pregnant. I reminded her of our earlier agreement, not to have children together.
She had also told me she was on family planning, so I was surprised by the news. I asked her to consider terminating the pregnancy, but she refused and insisted on keeping the baby.
Since then, things have gone downhill. I no longer feel the same way about her, and I’ve stopped the financial support. When she realized I was cutting her off, she came to my office and tried to create a scene.
I had my staff remove her. She later went to my house and revealed everything to my wife. My wife was clearly disappointed, but she didn’t react immediately.
This morning, the lady sent me a threatening message, saying she would take me to a shrine and curse me for abandoning her while pregnant.
I feel this is unfair. I never promised her marriage or children, and I made my intentions very clear from the start. I supported her financially and emotionally, up until she went against what we both agreed on.
I’m confused and deeply worried. I’m trying to protect my marriage and my home. Am I wrong for refusing responsibility for the pregnancy, considering our agreement? How do I handle these threats, and what can I do to protect myself, my reputation, and my family?
I need guidance.
FG/EB
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