File photo of a worried woman
Dear GhanaWeb,
I’ve been married for over thirteen years, and my husband and I have three children.
He is wealthy, and as his wife, I’m doing well, too. I own multiple businesses, and our family has always been happy.
However, recently, my husband became cold and distant. It was as if something was bothering him, but he wouldn’t open up.
I tried everything possible to get him to talk, but he refused. I started praying about it, hoping for clarity, and eventually, I found out the truth on my own.
One of the girls who works for me in one of my shops is pregnant by him.
She is refusing to terminate the pregnancy, even though he suggested it. Another woman also told him that she might be pregnant, although I haven’t pursued that conversation further and don’t know who she is.
He has been worried and sad, burdened by these two pregnancies hanging over him.
I’m heartbroken that an ‘adult man’ with children and a family to be responsible for could go around and disgrace us like this.
What makes it even more hurtful is that it’s not some outsider; it’s one of my employees, a girl who has only completed high school and works in my shop.
How did this happen?
I’m tempted to confront him, but I can see how disturbed he is.
While I can’t accept what he has done, I want to approach this situation calmly and try to have a conversation with him.
Maybe we can come up with a plan together; perhaps we could convince the girl to terminate the pregnancy, or alternatively, allow her to keep the baby and later take responsibility for the child while compensating her.
The girl, who is only 23, says she’s scared. If she were my daughter, I wouldn’t encourage her to abort the child, so I’m equally torn. I want to help the situation, but I don’t want that child to become my rival either. As for the other woman who says she might be pregnant, I believe she’s old enough to handle the situation, so I’m not as concerned about her.
I’m not letting this go easily, though. Later, I will give him the biggest attitude; for now, I can see how frustrated he is, and it’s bothering me as a wife who cares about her husband. I know him well enough to see regret in his actions, and I don’t want to make it worse by adding my own pressure to the situation.
How do I handle this without losing my peace? I’m doing my best to make it seem easy, but it’s becoming harder every day. I’m no longer a happy wife, and it feels like I’m sacrificing my happiness just so he can be okay. What should I do?
FG/EB
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