File photo of an unhappy couple
Dear GhanaWeb,
I’ve been dating this girl for about two months now, and things were going fine until her aunt kicked her out of the house because the rent was up and she couldn’t afford it anymore.
Her aunt told her to leave, and she had to figure out her next move. At first, I really wanted to help her, but I felt like it was too soon for her to move in with me, so I decided to let things be.
Here’s the thing: she’s been jobless for a while, and I’ve been trying to find work for her. I found her a decent job, but the night before she was supposed to start, she called me at dawn saying she couldn’t go because she was feeling sick.
I told her to rest and get better, but by the time she recovered, the woman had already hired someone else. So, we had to start looking for another job.
I found another job for her, and she got it. The first day she was supposed to start was the same day she got kicked out of her aunt’s place. She told me she would be staying with her mother’s friend temporarily, but the commute to work was too far and “scary” because she’d have to wake up really early.
I suggested she call her new employer and explain the situation. She did, but the woman said she couldn’t start in the morning, so my girlfriend needed to find another job. I agreed and helped her look for yet another job. I even told her to go meet with the manager to see if she could get hired.
But, guess what? She called again saying she was sick and couldn’t go see the manager. Now she’s sitting at home, still jobless, and asking me for money to cover her basic needs. I’ve been giving her some support, but I feel like I’m enabling her instead of helping her get on her feet.
Today, I called to check in and asked if she had gone to see the manager yet. She started with, “I told you I’m sick, and now my brother is ill too. I don’t have money for his medical bills, and I’m also suffering from an ulcer, I need medicine but I can’t afford it. Can you send me some money?”
At this point, I’m starting to feel like she might be taking advantage of me. I don’t know if it’s too soon to dump her or if she’s just genuinely struggling. Maybe I’ve been too generous financially, and she’s just getting too comfortable.
What should I do? Is she just lazy, or is this something I’ve contributed to by always helping her out?
FG/EB
