We’ve heard it from so many brides, time and time again: “I
can’t believe she said that!” Or “How could he say that to me?” It’s true that
most brides tend to get more sensitive as the wedding approaches, but
sometimes, we just need to be careful about what we say to or in front of the
bride, because we could be hurting her feelings without our knowing!
Here are a few things you should try to avoid saying to any
bride:
“The groom is not
going to like your dress.”
You can’t possibly know the groom more than the bride does!
If the bride likes the dress and can imagine herself getting married in it, she
probably knows that her groom will like it as well.
“I don’t like your
dress.”
This sentence might be allowed if you’re going dress shopping
with her and she asked you to be completely honest with her. But if the bride
already picked out her dress, and she’s showing it to you, then there’s nothing
your comment is going to change (Except her mood!) Besides, taste is very
subjective and every bride has her own style and image of how she wants to look
on her big day.
“Don’t invite
him/her.”
It’s her special day
at the end of the day, and she gets to invite whoever she wants. So if there’s
someone you would rather not see at the wedding, you’re just going to have to
put your feelings aside and act civil when you see them for the bride’s sake.
“You still haven’t?”
Every bride is going
to be stressed out before her wedding; and she’s going to have a million things
on her to-do list! It’s not going to help if you remind her just how late she
is for her dress fitting, booking her DJ, printing out the invitations, etc.
The best thing to do is to try and help her with her wedding tasks, not remind
her how late she is, or how bad a job she’s doing planning her wedding!
“Why aren’t you on a
diet?”
The weight topic is one of the most sensitive issues to
bring up in front of anyone, let alone a bride-to-be! Chances are she’s already
thinking about it and stressed over it. Reminding her about it will only make
her feel more under pressure, (and maybe snap at you!) Instead, keep telling
her that she is beautiful just the way she is, and that her hubby-to-be loves
her exactly the way she is.