You can’t possibly expect your girlfriend, Nkiru in Obalende to do to you what Shadow Kitten, a professional pornstar, does on TV.
Pornography, in these parts especially, remains something that’s frowned upon. But this is only a rhetoric that is upheld in theory. Reality suggests something else entirely as consumption of pornographic content continues to stay on the up.
When in romantic relationships and marriages though, you may want to tone down on pornography and how you view and use it. Here are reasons why you should consider this:
1. It could be cheating
Viewing pornography is essentially cheating on your significant other. But it is also cheating yourself out of an authentic, human interaction that stretches you to be a better version of yourself.
If you’re the type to enjoy such content with your partner, however, that’s a different thing altogether.
Watching porn while in a relationship is considered cheating by many people. (Credit – Celebzmagazine)
2. Your partner won’t always be ready or willing like pornstars
People in real life have headaches after long busy days at work; they have cramps, feel tired and stressed out and sex gets turned down and postponed all the time. This rarely happens in porno flicks and regularly internalizing this could make you build unrealistic demands on how regularly sex should be between you and your partner.
3. Sexual performance isn’t the same with reality
Not only have these shots be taken repeatedly to look that good, the lighting and conditioning and scenery have all been tweaked to look glossy and as nice as what you see as the end product.
In real life, sex is rarely as glossy, air-brushed or perfectly choreographed.
Consuming so much of that and building up an expectation based on that may be really bad for you.
No woman will likely be able to keep up with what you see on TV, neither will many men have the time or stamina to go on and on as porn actors do.