Some women find it extremely challenging to turn down sex. Some are afraid that turning down their man’s wish to have sex will end up hurting his male ego. This brings us to talk about how women can easily turn down sex without feeling guilty or wondering if it would hurt their partners. Because let’s face it, sometimes, you’re just not in the mood and no matter what you do, you just don’t feel like getting intimate in that moment. Here are a few ways that can help you turn down sex without hurting your man.
Just be honest and say, “I don’t feel like it today.”
As easy as it can get, simply tell your man that you’re not in the mood today. Trust us when we say this, it might not even sound as bad as you think it would. When you’re honest, your partner will understand and not take it the wrong way. An early warning makes it easier for a man to accept that sex is not going to happen. Just make sure you say it in a polite manner as it makes a great difference.
Tell him you’re in your period
There’s no reason to be ashamed of your period cycle. It’s not in your control and even if your man is in the mood, you probably are feeling the worse with all the cramping and mood swings. It’s totally acceptable to tell your partner that you’re on your period, he will accept it easily instead of getting upset about it.
Let him know you’re not up for it today but can plan it for tomorrow
When you outright tell your partner that you’re not in the mood to have sex today, it might make him feel it’s not going to happen anytime soon or that you’ve lost interest. This is why it’s better to add a sentence to it and tell him that you can very much plan it for tomorrow. This way, he will look forward to the next day instead of wondering what went wrong with you today.
Confess that you’re not ready yet and need some time
If you’re a new couple and your partner has been talking about how he wants to have sex with you sometime soon, you can always express that you don’t feel ready yet if that’s the case. Make him understand that you want to take things slow and that you need some more time to get comfortable with that kind of intimacy.
Tell him you’re physically in pain
When you’re in some kind of pain, you automatically won’t feel like having sex, no matter how much you try to get yourself in the mood. Just tell your man that you have a migraine or your back is aching or you’re simply feeling physical exhaustion and don’t think that you’d want to exert more by having sex. There’s always a way to say things, if you pick the right words and way of saying things, it will never hurt your man’s ego.